The reason why I write this post is that I often ask myself in the heart: Why others can achieve success easily, but I tried so hard but still have nothing?
At one point, I even thought that God was unfair, but I forgot: God's fairest is to make the world unfair, so every one of us has equal right to pursue fairness.
If you were like me, only to see the unfair, and forget about the merciful right for us to pursue fairness, then please be patient to read this post. If not, congratulations on your foresight, reading this post will be a waste of your time.
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I have a friend; his family condition is not good, his mother has been seriously ill, occasionally recurrence.
He was my junior high school friend, he was the most hardworking friend I know, because of his family issues, he studies very hard, and more mature compared to us.
During high school, he got up 5 o'clock every morning including the weekend. He sacrifices his recreational activities just to get into a better university. However, not only he was not able to get into the university he wanted, but this is his worst results over the years.
When he got his results, he called me and told me that he failed, cried all morning, and he figured out something.
I asked him what he had figured out, he choked and told me that he had been living in a very boring three years, but the result of sacrificing all recreational activities in exchange for such results, not reconciled, not gratified, also not comfortable.
I asked him what he’s going to do; he paused for a few seconds, I was trying to comfort him but was speechless by his words.
He said that he has no money for him to retake the exam, he can only go to other infamous universities.
Is his efforts really in vain?
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I saw him before I went to college last year.
He told me a lot of people and things related to the university, and in the end, he gave me advice that I need to dare to try to break through my timid self, and never stop learning, don’t become the most confused college students.
I wonder how can he said that as if a year ago he did not fail his exam in high school. When I carefully asked him whether he had forgotten the exam last year.
He then laughed and said: Can’t you think of something good, high school is not the end of life, and again, my efforts are not wasted.
If I did not develop self-control, self-discipline, reasonable control of time in high school, I really can’t guarantee that I can work as hard as I do now without losing the fun of life.
The reason why the university can make many people who have tried to degenerate is that no teacher will force you to learn.
If you don't know how to discipline yourself, you will only be playing around every day like most people.
I asked him what he learned from the university, and he said he was grateful that every year is good every day, life is through a variety of organizations and associations and develops a lot of skills.
Listening to him counting his achievements, I also felt happy for him.
I looked at him and suddenly understood a truth.
If your efforts do not achieve the equivalent results, please insist, even if the result is really passable, it won’t be wasted, you will obtain the following several derivative qualities:
A high level of self-control can help you get rid of mobile addiction and game addiction.
Strong concentration can keep you together in a bad environment.
Able to endure loneliness, not because the university can not find the companion to learn and feel lonely.
The sense of hardship makes you aware of yourself at all times.
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No one is born to be successful, so if you failed, there is no big deal, do not find excuses and complain how unfair the world is.
Complaining is the most negative emotion; it will produce a "domino effect," a person's complaints is enough to cause a group of people complain, and cause everyone to complain.
Not everything will go according to your plan.
Your efforts are to prove that you are serious towards life, does not mean that you will live wonderfully. When you failed, you should think about how to make life more exciting, not complain about life.
I used to thought that I’m a hard working person, even if I’m not satisfied with my life, I will not give up, even be proud of myself that I can persist so long. It was not until later that I saw an article, I realized why I had no success in my efforts.
Many people work hard, but only a few succeed. My teacher used to say that most of the people who worked hard were just "low-quality hard work."
We are busy studying, but forget that study should constantly reflect and experience on.
We only know to work hard but forget to change a way of learning, life will become much easier, will also add a lot of fun.
When I learned the truth, I began to learn to plan my life, think about what I want, how to get what I want, and the important thing is what I like, did I fight for the things I like?
I changed my way of learning bit by bit, found that learning is not that annoying, I slowly cultivate my interest, found that I can be as cool as people in the book, will starve for the things I like.
People should be full of energy, self-repentance, self-reflection, self-growth, rather than complaining about others. --- Audrey Hepburn
