In life, we will face a variety of choices every day; I believe you and me, as well, will worry about the choice we make.
Some choices may be easier to make, and some choices are more difficult to make, and even some choices can cause you some sleepless nights.
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When going for dinner, struggle to choose where to go. After finding a restaurant, but struggle to decide what to eat.
What kind of job should I look for after I graduated? After getting the offer, which company should I choose?
When I’m relaxing, which book should I read? Which movie should I watch?
And so on, our lives are always filled with such struggling scenes.
This scenario shows that you are suffering from "Allodoxaphobia (fear of opinion)."
People suffering from this phobia will be extremely difficult to make a choice, and unable to make a decision that satisfies them. They usually like to swing between a few choices, even if is the final decision, but it is also a forced choice or compromise choice. And, once the result of choice is unsatisfactory, they will be annoyed unceasingly.
Why do you have “Allodoxaphobia”? Normally, there are four reasons for this phobia:
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1. Lazy Thinking
What does this mean? You do not want to choose and do not bother to choose. The most common example is when choosing what to eat. For example, what to eat today, a lot of people the most common word: Anything is fine, you decide!
Such choices are often not very important and abound in life. But if everyone thinks so, in the end, what are you going to eat?
So in the end, you are not willing to think, always hope that others can make decisions for us.
2. The choice of things is more abundant
Many people may argue that they are not a lazy thinker, they are not lazy to think, but there are too many options, they really do not know which to choose.
Indeed, that is one of the reason. With the industrial level and the increase in the consumption capacity of residents, a large number of products have been developed and produced, the range of choice is indeed enriched.
3. Insufficient capacity
This situation generally happened in work and study, every day a variety of information constantly scour our eyeballs and the brain.
The situation we are facing is no longer lack of information, but information overload, information overload makes us judge on the information, the cost of screening information continues to rise.
Further said that the original information decision-making approach is no longer satisfied with the actual needs, or to keep up with the pace of information decision-making.
In the midst of overloaded information, you don't know what information is true, what information is fake, what information is right, what information is wrong, what information is useful to yourself, what information is useless to you …
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4. Fear of bearing the consequences
Some big choices may even affect a person's trajectory. This allows the selector to be caught in an infinite choice of anxiety because the fear of choice can lead to a variety of disappointing results.
If this happens all the time, you may fall into a vicious circle:
So how do you make a wise decision and stop having difficulties to make a choice?
1. Use the power of habit
In life, many things can be avoided by habit.
For example, choosing what to eat, you can give yourself a fixed list of what to eat.
So, to avoid wasting time on the menu, you might as well give yourself a fixed list, you can also change the list once a month. Use this habit to stop Allodoxaphobia.
2. Stop collecting information while giving yourself time limits
You should stop collecting too much information, and many times it is difficult to choose because we collect too much information and don't know what information to follow.
You should focus on the quality of information, not the quantity. Gathering too much information consumes our time and energy. On the other hand, too much information tends to confuse us, making it difficult to choose.
At the same time, when making a choice, you should also give yourself a limit, whether it is to give yourself a deadline or to make a decision within the time limits. For example, make a decision before X-month X-day, decide within 30 minutes, and so on.
Generally, there is no absolute right answer to this kind of thing; you have to give yourself a time to make a quick decision.
Therefore, the choice itself is not a difficult thing, but it may be an "exercise" for you. Therefore, the next time you encounter a difficult choice, you can try the above ways to solve it.
