As a child I always relied on my younger brother (two years gap) for many things nad he relied on me on other things, so by now I don't have much 'autonomy' I always need someone to make small/group decisions for me. (Personal decisions are easier and I can make miracles when I really set my mind to.)
My parents never taught us to choose ourselves, they choose our clothes, toys when we were small, and did all the chores themselves. My brother taught himself to choose, and I relied on him for the most part. I still love my parents they taught me almost every other things.
We make a joke that I'm the brain of the house and everyone excels in something, I can't do house work but I feel happy when they need something internet related.
These days my sisters are doing the chores, by the way.
I'm amazed I'm the first one to comment on this, it's such a good post!
RE: What to do so that a child has autonomy