Loss. Whether it's an experience of a death of someone special to you or a sudden break up from a relationship,all of these situations tears us apart. It pulls us down making us devastated and frustrated about ourselves and our lives. We experienced this before and its definitely a painful one. When someone dies and you are attached to that person emotionally it shreds your heart to pieces slowly with excruciating pain. When my cousin who was living with us died because of electrical shock at school it left me horrified and very upset that he left with such a tragic accident. Maybe this feeling of intense pain is the same feeling that lovers felt when they were cheated on and left with a broken heart. Different events,same agonizing desolation.
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, , with her book on "On Death and Dying" emphasized 5 Stages of Grief people typically response to loss.
People who had experienced loss in their lives go through these stages. Sometimes it may not be experienced in order and sometimes there are also people who will be stucked on a particular stage.
1. DENIAL
The first stage of grief wherein we tend to refuse and to accept the loss or the heartbreak that we experienced. We feel that everything is meaningless and that we are carrying the world on our shoulders.
2.ANGER
Anger is a strong feeling of being upset or annoyed because something bad happened. This feeling is only natural because you are still trying to accept the sorrow that you are feeling.
3.BARGAINING
During this period of grief,you will act in a way that you will do anything for the life of that person to be spared. Or you will tell your partner to get back with you and that you'll do everything for the relationship to be patched up.
4. DEPRESSION
Since we bargained enough and that nothings happening to our pleas we then fall into anxiety and depression. This is the longest stage of grief and that people who are experiencing depression will feel that everything doesnt have any meaning and that life is not worthy. Always remember that this is not a mental disorder but an appropriate response to a moment of sorrow. But if depression is still present for a long period of time then you may already have a problem.
5. ACCEPTANCE
The last stage of grief wherein there is a realization that one is physically gone and we need to accept the reality. We hate to accept the existing reality but we dont have any choice but to move on. We must continue to live for our life and for the ones left behind.
We need to live again. We need to fall in love again or to continue with our lives even after the misery that we have experienced. Since we only have one life and part of appreciating the worth of this life is to accept that life will not always be cupcakes and rainbows.