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I don't know when does it starts, we all have been labeled as "mature," "strong," "independent."
In the course of our growth, we will encounter a lot of things; we have to learn to deal with the works we have not dealt with before, deal with some sinister encountered in the society, and also need to deal with various problems in life.
We thought that when we grow up we will learn to deal with all the things we encountered, even if we can not cope with it, we also need to withdraw our tears, start smiling and keep working hard.
Everytime a friend or family member sends a message to ask: “How are you doing?” We all will say: "I'm fine."
But in fact, we are not fine; everyone is afraid of loneliness, everyone needs company, eager for care, but shy to express our sincerity.
Some people say that the older you are, the less people will forgive you for being poor.
Growing up, bear the expectations of our parents, our dreams. "Failure" and "cowardice" are all words that dare not to be mentioned. These are not wrong, but we should grow up and face our life calmly.
After going through some of the most difficult days, we are the invincible, as if really become "mature", "strong" and "independent."
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There is no “easy” in the adult world. Sometimes I will also feel tired; I will also be afraid of the dark, I will also want someone to accompany.
I have a friend, Helen, is recognized as an iron lady among our friends. Many times, when we need anything, we will call her, ask her for help, because she can handle all the issues within her abilities well.
During a reunion party, everyone was drunk, Helen took care of everyone, bring everyone back to their home, and I followed her home.
When I woke up in the middle of the night, I saw Helen sitting in a daze in the living room; I asked her why she does not go to sleep.
She suddenly started crying, after my repeated inquiries, Helen said her dearest grandmother passed away.
"My parents were divorced, and I grew up with my grandmother, my grandmother taught me to be independent, learn to deal with all kinds of things, my grandmother is my closest family member in the world. Whenever I encounter any difficulties, because of grandma, I was able to live through it, but, she suddenly passed away. ”
Helen who was always strong, at this moment, she was like a wounded kitten curled up in the sofa sobbing. Listening to her, I also almost cried.
No one's life is easy, even if there is, it is also fake. Behind a strong man, there is always loneliness and helplessness that you don’t know about. No matter how a strong person is, he/she also needs company, no matter how formidable a person is, he/she also has a soft spot.
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Some people are lonely and living strong in the world, they often look invincible, in fact, they also need companionship and support.
One of my colleague, Jenny, she has been working with the company for five years, two years ago, she ended a long-distance relationship and has never been in love since then.
Although her family has been urging her to get married, the colleagues and friends around her are ending their single life; she still insisted on the "marry to love" principle. Yesterday afternoon, Jenny went to watch “The Ex-File: The Return of the Exes” alone. After the movie, she shares a post: "Other people have no exes, and single, but they have a best friend, and I have nothing." After reading her post, I can see her sadness from her post."
Jenny sent me a message saying: "After watching the movie, I also want to have someone I can share with, I also want to have someone who can send me home after the movie, but every time, I always alone."
Although we work in the same company, we live very far, and rarely meet with each other after work. I also like Jenny, often watch a movie alone, after watching, have no one to share with, habitual look up the review online to see the comments from netizens.
The reason why I am single is that I am not sure that I will meet someone who is passionate enough to fall in love.
No matter how strong we looked, we still need someone at our side, want to meet a person who knows how to cherish each other.
Love is not like reading, choose a goal as long as put in efforts then might achieve it, where love is not that easy, not because when you want a company, you can casually choose a feeling.
We've all survived so much loneliness, what are we afraid of? The right person will always appear.
We live in a big and hurried city, busy on the road and also busy living into our expectations, only we know, we might look strong, but we will also hesitant, also need a firm eye. When we are sad and helpless, we need a shoulder to lean on.
I'm in a dilemma, part of me wants to have a closer relationship, but fear that I might get injured.
Sometimes we don't really expect someone to come near and care about our sadness. It seems to be a more comfortable and polite way to have a quiet company than to inquisitive.
I have been living in the city for these years, learned how to change the light bulbs, learned to repair the faucet, learned to plug the sewer, also learned all kinds of things, every day works hard to complete the task. Read books, write posts, jogging, every night back home will be too tired to speak.
At night after work back home, habitually turn on all the lights, turn on the music, doing my things, listening to some music, may feel less lonely.
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At the beginning of an alone life, all aspects of life pressure, as time goes on, feel that become firmer.
No one's life is easy, growing up on the road that has a lot of thorns, if we can’t move, then stop to rest, if want to cry, then cry.
Going through all the loneliness and helplessness alone, as if everything seems not so difficult.
If you already go through those tough days, what else are you afraid of?
Stand up, and overcoming all obstacles with a smile on your face.
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