A few days ago, I have this thought: “If I can join Steemit earlier, I might be a whale now”. But then I realized, there is no IF in life.
On the road of life, we often think that: If I did not do that thing, I believe my life will be better.
I've heard many people around me said, "If I had changed jobs; If I had bought that stock; If I had married to someone; If I had been studying hard; If I had...
In fact, you can't go back to the past, even if you can, you will still make the same decision. You are still the same you because you have not experienced anything in the future yet, right?
When I was a teacher, one of the students complained to me, saying, "If I were born in a different family, my fate would not be like this."
I told him: "If you are not born in this family, your fate of course will be different because you will not be the “current you”. But if you are not who you are now, how can you say "My fate"? Because that person is not you anymore.
There was once a successful entrepreneur, one day he accompanied his father to a high-class restaurant to dine, the restaurant has an extraordinary violin artist, is playing for everyone.
The entrepreneur, remembered that he learned violin before and was passionate about it. And he said to his father, "If I had continued to play violin and become a violinist, I might be performing in this restaurant now."
"Yes, my boy. His father replied, "but then you won't be sitting here now."
Life has different paths, every path has different scenery. Regardless of what happens, remember: Every decision you make has its pros and cons. Whether to be an artist or an entrepreneur, to have short hair or to have long hair, to leave or to continue the original life. Each decision will have win and lose. Even if you took the wrong path, it is worth to take a look at the scenery. As long as you have this kind of thought, your heart will be relieved.
I know a friend who originally worked as a marketing planner. Because he admired poets and painters for their free life, he resigned and engaged in artwork and barely lived by selling personal creations. I asked him, "Will you worry about your livelihood?" "Of course I will worry, but this is my decision." he said," For the sake of freedom and ideals, I am willing to pay this price."
There is no IF in life, only consequences and results. You can look back, but you'll always be you. Remember Tagore's words: "If you shed tears when you miss the sun, you will also miss the stars." Don't fret about past events or the foregone conclusion. Focus on what you can change.
The past is in the past, don't live in the past. "Remorse in the unfortunate will only incur more misfortune".
When you are driving, if you keep looking in the mirror, can you see the road in front of you?
